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Here are some definitions helpful to understanding the nuances of abuse, as well as the shape it takes in religious or spiritual settings.

 

[T]he term ‘sexual violation’ …captures ‘a broad set of events beyond those involving explicit forms of violence,’ and acknowledges ‘structural constraints on consent.’ “

- Dr/s Ann Gleig & Amy Langenberg
Listening for and to survivors
Article
{A}buse, Sexual Abuse

As [Linda Martin Alcoff] explains ‘To violate is to infringe upon someone, to transgress, and it can also mean to rupture or to break. Violations can happen with stealth, with manipulation, with soft words and a gentle touch to a child, or an employee, or anyone who is significantly vulnerable to the offices of others.’ “

- Dr/s Ann Gleig & Amy Langenberg
Listening for and to survivors
Article
{A}buse, Spiritual Abuse

While the survivors we were able to interview all identify as female, this is not true of all survivors of abuse in Buddhist contexts…[list of publicized examples of Buddhist abuse targeting cis-men]…This reflects general statistics on sexual violence, which, according to RAINN, impacts women (and girls) at high rates.”

- Dr/s Ann Gleig & Amy Langenberg
Listening for and to survivors
Article
{A}buse, Sexual Abuse

Many survivors had reported to us that they felt as harmed by poor institutional and community responses to the abuse as by the abuse itself.”

- Dr/s Ann Gleig & Amy Langenberg
Listening for and to survivors
Article
{A}buse, Betrayal Trauma, {C}ommunity (Of d-HARM-a), {C}oncepts, Institutional Betrayal

[T]he model of clergy misconduct recognizes that consent is not possible between clergy and congregants. As of 2025, fourteen states and the District of Columbia have enacted laws that make it illegal for clergy to engage in sexual misconduct with adult congregants.”

- Dr/s Ann Gleig & Amy Langenberg
Listening for and to survivors
Article
{A}buse, Clergy Misconduct

The naming of what counts as sexual abuse is a key battle site in attempts to bring justice to victim/survivors in Buddhist contexts.”

- Dr/s Ann Gleig & Amy Langenberg
Listening for and to survivors
Article
{A}buse, Sexual Abuse

One group that works with those harmed by clergy sexual abuse offers this insight: ‘In our work with survivors of clergy sexual abuse we often ask the question, Would this have happened if he/she was your neighbor and not your pastor? Overwhelmingly the answer is ‘no’. The witness of survivors underscores the truth that the clergy role carries with it a power and authority that make meaningful consent impossible.”

- Julie Seido Nelson
Practicing Safe Zen
2025: Practicing Safe Zen: Navigating the Pitfalls on the Road to Liberation, by Julie Seido Nelson
Book
{A}buse, Clergy Misconduct, {C}onsent

One important factor to keep in mind is that abuse does not have to be physical; in many cases, it may be verbal or emotional. This seemingly less severe abuse often leads the victim to doubt her reactions because she is not being physically attacked and may  not be able to explain the abuse to herself or others.”

- Janja Lalich and Madeleine Tobias
Take Back Your Life
2024: Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships, by Janja Lalich and Madeleine Tobias
Book
{A}buse

It was during these years – the 1980s and1990s – that one after another prominent male Buddhist teacher was revealed to have engaged in sexual misconduct or abuse and became the subject of scandal. Buddhism clearly had a problem on its hands, and it still does; the sexual abuse of students by male Buddhist teachers continues to this day…These events and their harmful effects need to be acknowledged in any book on modern Buddhism.”

- Evan Thompson
Why I am Not a Buddhist
2020: Why I am Not a Buddhist, by Evan Thompson
Book
{A}buse, Sexual Abuse, {A}cknowledgement, {A}llies/Advocates, Academia

[T]he model of clergy misconduct recognizes that consent is not possible between clergy and congregants.”

- Dr/s Ann Gleig & Amy Langenberg
Listening to and for survivors
Article
{A}buse, Clergy Misconduct, {C}onsent

Listen to Max f/k/a Bosui share a little something about accountability from her own experience.

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Here, we offer a space for voices to meet and mingle within the Mitigating dHARMa community. We invite you to place your own offering—a reflection, an insight, a resource.

Beyond the basic physical and psychological facts of what happened to me, I struggled around how deeply I felt betrayed, how long my distress and pain was lasting. A full year after I left my center, I heard the term ‘spiritual abuse’, and realized that this is it – this is at the core of the harm perpetrated on me. With this recognition, I’d say my healing truly began.

• a survivor

Unfortunately, abuse in its many forms is a reality that many have encountered in the dharma, which is particularly painful since people come to the dharma seeking refuge.

• Mariana Restrepo

I happened across your site while doing a check in on my former exploitative meditation group, Shambhala International. In my years of recovery I have maintained a public list of links that I’ve felt helpful. I recognize a lot of the links you have kindly present on your site. Thanks.

(the list provided by our mitigating dHARMa community member is being integrated into this site)

• anonymous

Spiritual abuse doesn’t just hurt – it disorients. When integrity becomes a weapon, when teachers who helped you awaken betray you, it impacts who you think you are. Your sense of reality fractures.

• Amma

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